
I am going to say something that is widely unpopular and will probably garner a few negative comments. But I feel very convicted to say this in light of the NUMEROUS marriages that I know that are falling apart and crumbling.
First of all, let me say, I speak from experience. Tiffany and I by no means have had the perfect marriage. In fact we almost divorced after only 1 year because of my addiction at the time and because of me being a legalistic jerk. She too had her own issues that she will tell you about if you ask her. But the bottom line is we quickly fell out of love just as quickly as we fell in.
That was 15 years ago. There’s too much to tell on a FB post as to how we survived what we did…the recovery process…counseling…numerous times of having no money…losing jobs…family struggles…communication problems…nearly losing our son…the shouting matches that got the police called on us…having a special needs child…and on and on.
What kept us together? God. And discovering a simple truth that many don’t know today. That marriage is not about MY happiness. It is about giving God glory.
As a minister of 20 years, that is what I see as the greatest death nail in the coffin of so many marriages. Its the same death nail of a person’s relationship with God. Its the same death nail of a church that is dying. Its the same death nail of a person who coming to the end of their life through self destruction. And that is this… they see marriage as something to get something out of it, instead of something to pour into, for the sake of giving God glory.